Internet Dating Consulting
Your Profile
Your Photo
Your Internet Dating Etiquette
For a lot of guys (especially guys who aren’t crazy about crowds, or drinking, or noisy places), finding dates on the Internet has a lot of advantages. Dating websites allow guys to see what their potential dates look like in advance and to learn a few “vital statistics” about them before making any kind of approach. And it’s quicker on the Internet, too: A guy can accomplish as much “fact-finding” in 30 seconds on the Web as he can in 30 minutes of conversation face-to-face. And since this “face-to-face” usually takes place at some kind of watering hole or eatery, it’s a lot less expensive to “pre-screen” your dates on the Internet, as well.
But there are ways to use Internet-dating sites effectively, and ways to blow it. I can help you in three specific areas to make sure you make the most of the time you spend looking for dates on the Internet.
Your Profile. It all starts with your online profile. While every dating site has its own quirks of layout and content, most of them have an area for you to write a narrative profile or background statement on yourself. Your profile is one of the most important parts of your posting. But the problem for most guys is: They’re not writers! So they end up copying what they see other guys doing in their profiles, without realizing that those other guys are actually coming up empty most of the time, as well — a classic case of the blind leading the blind!
What you need is a profile that stands out, that stands way above the crowd in both content and language, and that says to every woman who visits: This guy’s different . . . this guy’s real . . . this guy’s interesting . . . and this guy’s probably worth getting to know better. There’s a special technique to writing this kind of high-impact profile, which I use in every client profile I create for my clients. After I’ve had a chance to interview you in depth and jot down the particulars of your background (etc.), I create a custom-tailored profile for you that’ll bring the true you to life in an alluring and charming style that I guarantee will increase the number of “hits” you get from the kinds of women you want to date. The price for this service includes up to two different versions of your profile, tweaked/re-formatted for different dating sites.
Per custom-written profile: $200 (includes interview, writing, and one edit)
For more information, give me a call:
877-815-6558
Your Photo.The next thing I look at, of course, is your photograph... I just can’t overstate the importance of a good picture. While it’s true that women, as a general rule, place less emphasis on physical appearance than men do, make no mistake about it: Your photo is the first thing women will look at, the first ‘story’ they’ll read, and the critical first-impression they’ll get of you before they read even one word of your profile. Is this shallow? Is it unfair? Is it anti-intellectual? Maybe. But it’s the way it is.
I will make sure your online picture is the very best it can be. This (sometimes) means working with a professional photographer, and it means meeting certain specific criteria for lighting, mood, color, wardrobe, cropping (etc.) in order to ensure that your photograph has maximum impact (specifically in the “small-frame” context of Internet postings). I’ll go over all these principals with you, and give you a set of illustrated guidelines that you can share with your photographer.
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(If you don’t have a professional photographer at the moment, I’d encourage you to contact LookBetterOnline.com, the nation’s leading online photographic referral service, with affiliated photographers available in more than 6,000 U.S. and Canadian cities. All of the photographers in their database are experts at taking and preparing personal photos for Internet posting.)
Hourly Rate: $160, billed in quarter-hour increments
For more information, give me a call:
877-815-6558
Your Internet Dating Etiquette. Once your profile and photo are the best they can be, we then need to make sure your response skills are everything they can be. How do you respond to that first contact? How do you figure out what she’s really saying? How do you formulate a response that’ll be most likely to accelerate the screening process, get the ball rolling, and ultimately lead to a date (if you want it to)? And how about your first contact with her? What should you say? How much should you say? What’s your goal? And for goodness sake, what should you absolutely, positively avoid saying throughout the “email phase” of the Internet dating venture so as to not screw it up with women you might actually be able to get a date with?
I’ve organized everything I’ve learned about successful Internet dating into an intensive, highly technical 90-minute mentoring session called Internet Etiquette 101: Emailing Your Way To A Date. Why this title? Because until you get her phone number and begin talking with her by telephone, email is your basic mode of communication.
Among the topics I cover in this structured mentoring session are:
- Her first contact: Code words & catch phrases
- Your first reply: A guaranteed winner!
- Her second contact: Reading between the lines
- How much should I say? (The “Strategic Reveal”)
- Learning from your mistakes
- Knowing when and how to ask for her phone number!
I offer this structured session for individual clients at their convenience, and occasionally for groups of up to 10 participants at locations throughout central Arizona.
Session fee: $250
For more information, give me a call:
877-815-6558
