My name is Brad Finsilver.

I’m a professional dating mentor and relationships coach.

I work with guys as their personal guide, coach, counselor, teacher and trainer in the whole area of dating. My goal for each and every one of my clients is the same: To help you overcome your fears and insecurities about dating women, and to teach you proven techniques that’ll make your dating experience more successful, less frustrating, and a lot more fun than it’s ever been before.

Before I started my mentoring practice, I was like a lot of other successful, available, twenty-something, professional guys who had just been playing the field. In fact, I’d founded and operated two very successful businesses of my own (in the mortgage and lending industries), and was doing pretty well for a guy of my age. Then, in my early thirties, I met an amazing girl. I was totally enamored with her and was overwhelmed by the intensity of my feelings for her. Yet, after months of courtship, during which I was sure I was treating her “right” in every possible way, this wonderful woman ended up choosing another guy – one who belittled her, demeaned her, and ended up leaving her. I was, needless to say, hugely hurt and confused when this happened — who wouldn’t be, right? And the question kept pounding in my head: Why would she choose such a loser over such a great guy like me? Where did I go wrong? There had to be an answer.

I decided to look deep within myself and to make a total commitment to figuring out what I’d done to ‘blow it’ with this lady, and how I could avoid such devastating failures in the future.

I sold my lucrative mortgage business and devoted the next two years of my life to this one central quest. I read a lot of books and did as much other pure research as I could. And I talked to a lot of people, too, men and women alike, from all walks of life and of various ages. These hundreds of hours of interviews and interactions were amazingly instructive for me. I’m sure I got the equivalent of a college degree in dating in about 24 month’s time.

During my journey of introspection, discovery and research, I perfected an easy and totally non-threatening approach to meeting women regardless of the venue — bar, restaurant, coffee shop, grocery store, shopping mall, social function, concert, you name it — and I now use this approach automatically in every dating situation I encounter, simply because it’s become integrated into my behavioral roadmap. This method — which is based fundamentally on honesty and respect for women and for oneself — is, in fact, a combination of altered behavioral consciousness, a specific set of interpersonal communications skills, and a whole lot of gen-yoo-wine insight on what makes women tick and what they are looking for (at least in the dating arena); and the fact is, I simply got better and more successful at dating. It became easier for me . . . I felt more comfortable at it . . . and, for the most part, I’m now able to meet and date just about any woman I want (hey, nobody bats a thousand in the dating league!) without any deception, dishonesty, or manipulation.

It all starts, however, with self-confidence, and that’s where my work as a dating mentor begins.

A Practice is Born

A lot of my friends saw how successful and self-confident I’d become and wanted to learn my “secrets”. I told them that all they needed was a willingness to apply the knowledge and perfect the simple skills that I’d learned in my years of study and (frankly) practice. That’s where my self-confidence comes from, I told them: knowing what to expect, knowing how to speak, knowing how to move, knowing how to react, and so on — in every dating situation you might face.

One by one, my friends would listen to what I had to say, talk about their own experiences and why they might have been less than hugely successful in the past, and then we’d go out together and literally “practice’ what I’d taught them in real-world situations with honest-to-God, living, breathing attractive women.

Some college football coach once said that “Practice doesn’t make perfect; perfect practice makes perfect!” Which means: If you keep practicing the wrong things in the wrong way, then you’ll just keep getting better at doing the wrong things in the wrong way! That’s why you’ve got to practice with an expert coach or teacher looking on to correct (and encourage!) you along the way. You can see for yourself how successful this experience is for my clients by taking a look at their testimonials.

In December of 2006, I formally established my own consulting practice, The Date Mentor™, through which my services are now available to guys everywhere who are serious about making the behavioral changes they must make if they really want to be more successful in meeting and dating women.

The principal services I offer are one-on-one, personal date mentoring, Internet-dating consulting, and image consulting.

I also offer three-day (30-hour) weekend workshops for select groups of up to five men; these “in-town retreats” include both group learning and discussion sessions as well as individualized “practice” sessions out in the field.

For clients who’d prefer to use an intermediary to make the crucial “breaking-the-ice” contacts and introductions for them, The Date Mentor™ can provide a specially trained Ultimate WingWoman (Scottsdale area). [NOTE: My WingWomen are experts at what they do and have the highest level of discretion and integrity; I can guarantee this because I trained each and every one of them!]

Out-of-town clients coming to Scottsdale should inquire about The Date Mentor's™ exclusive Visitor’s Package.

I can tell you very candidly that I love what I do, and I’m very, very good at it. So if you’ve tried everything . . . if you’re still not happy with your dating life . . . and if you’re totally open to transformative interpersonal change, then I’m here to help you, and I’d love to be of service! Give me a call at:

877-815-6558

“Practice doesn’t make perfect; perfect practice makes perfect!”